Is Borderline Personality Disorder Even A Real Thing?

LouisaFebruary 18, 2020003 Rewriting the Narrative, Power & Privilege, The Adoptee Journey

The problem with a mental illness being derived by a set of certain symptoms, is that divergence from the norm is defined subjectively.

How I learned that Mental Illness was not a Personal Failure

LouisaJanuary 11, 2019003 Rewriting the Narrative, The Adoptee Journey

Achievement and failure exist only as a construct, a way to judge others and my sickness, my health and my worth has nothing to do with either.

TBINAA | Why I’m Grateful I Have a Borderline Personality Disorder Diagnosis

LouisaJanuary 14, 2018003 Rewriting the Narrative, First-person Essays, Published Articles, The Adoptee Journey

I googled ‘famous people who have borderline’ but I shouldn’t have. Amy Winehouse, Marilyn Monroe, Britney Spears. All touted as hysterical, unstable women.

“But I Can Still Cook!”

LouisaFebruary 18, 2017003 Rewriting the Narrative, The Adoptee JourneyLeave a Comment

This world built me without boundaries, brought me up to accept authority, to obey and to work in the system. I was preprogrammed to play my docile part.

The Hovel (Building a Self after Maternal Narcissism)

LouisaJanuary 11, 2017003 Rewriting the Narrative, The Adoptee JourneyLeave a Comment

What is here? Neglect is here. Overgrown plants are here. This hovel has never been occupied, never lived in, loved or cared for. It is dirty and lonely. It is private. It is the core of all things.

The Crossroads of Polyamory and Complex Trauma

LouisaJanuary 8, 2017Activism, Relationship Fluidity & BeyondLeave a Comment

Being polyamorous or practising consensual non-monogamy whilst also dealing with the consequences of complex trauma, has a few subtleties all of its own.

The Surprising Upsides of an Atrocious Memory

LouisaMay 20, 2016003 Rewriting the Narrative, The Adoptee JourneyLeave a Comment

At twelve years old, I experienced a car accident which must have had more of an impact than the months I don’t recall and I drank my way through my twenties, actively trying to forget many things, which I’m pretty sure had an even larger impact.

Is my Daughter Polyamorous or Mentally Ill?

LouisaFebruary 8, 2016Questions, Relationship Fluidity & BeyondLeave a Comment

I’ve seen my daughter send *hugs* to people in trouble on some threads. Is the correlation of mental illness is higher for polyamorous people?

What it’s Like to be a 24 year Old Alcoholic

LouisaJuly 31, 2014001 The Hostile Environment, 002 The Battle to Emerge, The Adoptee JourneyLeave a Comment

It’s not what I know I’ve done. But what I don’t know I’ve done. Yawning black holes of nothingness taunt me with their awful possibilities.

Is Loving Without Attachment An Enlightened Disorder?

LouisaJune 30, 2014001 The Hostile Environment, 002 The Battle to Emerge, 003 Rewriting the Narrative, The Adoptee Journey

Lack of object constancy occurs in adults when there is a failure to form normal attachments to primary care giving figures in early childhood.