No, It’s Not Your Parents’ Fault

Similarly if you experience insecure attachment as a child, all other things being equal, your mind will default to attach insecurely as an adult.

The Story of the High Speed Train

This is what my anxiety feels like. There is a valve which regulates my stress levels and it needs to be maintained, and strengthened through self-care.

Beware of Feeding Sharks

Addiction might be called a curse, but that’s only one way to look at it. Alcohol addiction used to be a way of tapping into a power I didn’t have, a release of pain I had trapped inside me.

Otherwise Known As The Human Condition

Twenty years later those two people are now strangers and our story is one of the human condition, of love and tragedy. It was inevitable. And so I simply sigh, close the book and move on.

The Beautiful Cracks

I built an armour called ‘fuck you’. It shielded me from the pain. But also from the joy. I built it from a place of indifference and it became me.

They Called Me ‘Mr Glass’…

In the film Unbreakable Samuel L. Jackson plays Mr. Glass. A man whose bones shatter like glass. A man who was constantly mocked as a child. He is sick, angry and broken.

Hollywood, The Unlikely Therapist

Those films which make you cry tap into your deepest longings. To be loved, to be the rescued child, to be the winner. We’ve all of us gone through trauma.

Can We Trust Self-Help?

We are all vulnerable with our own individual life circumstances. And with the increased accessibility of information we are also more likely to seek out the quick fix solution because quite simply it is in our nature.

Family Is What You Make It

My family was not one I was born to, it was one I made and continue to make on a daily basis. My family is a group of people who I trust and whose support I use to empower myself to grow in this world. I have relatives of course, but they are not who I consider my family.

Winning Through Enlightenment by Ron Smothermon

But then I read this book. And I can safely say it surpasses every expectation you’ve ever had of a guidebook to life. Whereas others like Illusions by Richard Bach speak in parables and enigma (beautiful though it is), this book is more practical. It’s also brutally honest; shockingly so.