Polyamory doesn’t have to be Queer

Although queer is a critique of normative identity, it’s grounded in gender & sexuality. To use it in my identity is an appropriation of the queer struggle.

The First Child Syndrome and Metamour Jealousy

I am not dismissing those fears and feelings as childhood experience. They are very real and not only because we still experience them as adults, but also because they are unhealed.

Franklin Veaux

Today Franklin Veaux is a leader and advocate in the polyamorous community; but over ten years ago Franklin Veaux was not a man whose word was respected.

Nerve | Polyamory is Pain

Whilst much of my writing colours polyamory in a rose tinted light, I am not ignorant of the enormous pain that it might and does bring to many. Those who say my credibility is damaged and that I am stupid because I ignore the obvious pain signals which should prevent me practising polyamory, are only proving their own ignorance about the necessity and role of pain in our lives.

Born to be Polyamorous? Not Me

How we individually express our genes is not predetermined. The structure of our brains is inextricably linked to, the influences in our environment.

Lukewarm Sex, is Better Than No Sex

I’ve been taught that I must relate to the men I have sex with, for more than their penis. Not only that but, I’ve been taught to fear THE PENIS.

“Who do you love? Is it me baby, is it him now?”

I want to be honest about my preferences. If a man with a gun demanded that I pick one dessert to eat for the rest of my life. It would be chocolate. But boy, would I miss my fresh strawberries. They’re amazing and people need fruit (so I’ve been told).

“Help me. I’m Having an Affair.”

Because the part of life that contradicts the lie, goes into that lovely place called denial and resides in your subconscious. It means you don’t have to be responsible for your life. And your subconscious mind will perpetuate the lie. It will go to greater and greater lengths to support the position you have created for yourself and cover up the truth. Lies fragment your subconscious and shatter your integrity.

Tikva Wolf

I try to cover a wide variety of themes, to show the innocent humanity behind different sorts of conflicts and joys that arise within relationships.

Viktor Leberecht

There might be more acceptance for polyamory in politics than many people in Germany are aware of. It lies within the same sphere as philosophy and society.

Johnny Rotter

John is from the North of England. He co-admins the UK Polyamory group on Facebook, doesn’t drive a car, and has a degree in Environmental Health. But his journey was kick-started by tragedy.

A Slut by Any Other Name

I could only assume that he had mistaken the word ‘polyamorist’ for ‘rapist’. After a bout of outrage, I sat down to examine what ‘slut’ really meant.

Polyamory, This Season’s Gay

The importance of this is highlighted by research that finds that it is difficult to clearly distinguish between monogamous and non-monogamous people. Like all such polarities they break down when examined closely. Consider Alfred Kinsey and Lisa Diamond’s work on sexuality – both finding that this is a lot more complex than the gay/straight polarity would suggest.

Where Elitism Undermines the Ethos of Polyamory

I work on checking and using privilege for good; but let’s also be honest, It is also the product of self-preservation – something which has made man into a consummate survivor. And it’s the ‘how-to’ eradicate it generally outlined, basically involves throwing out the ‘training wheels’, something which challenges the very instinct which protects us.

Huffpo | My Problem With Monogamy

Monogamy is designed to keep couples together by creating barriers of exit; socially; financially and psychologically. One cannot look at the divorce statistics to ascertain how successful it is; this only proves how many couples remain married. Not how many couples remain happily married… Judging by how many marriages now end in divorce since it became more socially acceptable, that’s not many over the long term.

But Isn’t Jealousy An Opportunity?

Isn’t it a pity that jealousy, such a wonderful red flag either of your own insecurity or your troubled relationship is suppressed, or worse validated?