Emerging from the Adoption Fog, Togethermore by Roderick Edwards

Louisa002 The Battle to Emerge, Book Reviews, The Adoptee Journey

To explain genetic attraction someone who’s never experienced growing up without their biological family is a huge challenge, because it’s something most people take for granted. It’s an even bigger challenge if you call it by the name it usually goes by, and that’s genetic sexual attraction (because er, incest). As I’ve stipulated elsewhere on my site, I believe, in … Read More

Why are all the Men I date Assholes?

Louisa002 The Battle to Emerge, The Adoptee Journey

I have a son and a daughter (with a man who is as far removed from being an asshole as it is possible to be). If either of them were ever caught up in a situation where they were the perpetrator or the victim of such a situation, I don’t know how I would contain my vitriol …or my guilt. Because in both positions, my children would be operating out of a place of low self-esteem. One who needed to feed their ego by taking power to control and manipulate. One who felt they were worth very little and that this was the only relationship they deserved.

Not Giving a Shit is a Good Thing (Part 3)

Louisa001 The Hostile Environment, 002 The Battle to Emerge, 003 Rewriting the Narrative, The Adoptee JourneyLeave a Comment

The most useful tool I’ve discovered on our life journey is compassionate honesty. It heals so many wounds. This month has given me the chance to compassionately and honestly re-examine the relationship between my adopted Mother and I, to see whether the wound has healed between us. But my mother continues to want to play the game of ‘who-is-right-and-wrong’, and … Read More