Family Is What You Make It

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My family was not one I was born to, it was one I made and continue to make on a daily basis. My family is a group of people who I trust and whose support I use to empower myself to grow in this world. I have relatives of course, but they are not who I consider my family.

Being Myself in Public

Louisa003 Rewriting the Narrative, The Adoptee Journey

If I enable a lie, it will take away a piece of me. Sometimes I think I am driven by sensationalism – a hangover of my desire for attention. That’s a part of it (and that’s the truth). But my experimentation with life, my experience, is my own way of determining what makes me happy outside of what society tells me makes me happy, and what makes me, me.

“Help me. I’m Having an Affair.”

LouisaActivism, Relationship Fluidity & Beyond

Because the part of life that contradicts the lie, goes into that lovely place called denial and resides in your subconscious. It means you don’t have to be responsible for your life. And your subconscious mind will perpetuate the lie. It will go to greater and greater lengths to support the position you have created for yourself and cover up the truth. Lies fragment your subconscious and shatter your integrity.

Quit The System

LouisaBusiness & Tech, What The Matriarch Sees

When you work all day and every day in a system where psychological manipulation and powerplay are used to create winners and losers, you are not acting with integrity, you are acting in ‘opposition’ and ‘conflict’. When you don’t act in integrity, you are fighting life itself. You are not being true to yourself.

The Cunt Crusades

LouisaShame & Sexuality, What The Matriarch Sees

Cunt Crusades

Don’t take cunt as a personal insult, because it says far more about the person saying it than the person receiving it. What it says is that the person saying it cannot disassociate the word cunt from something shameful.

Why My Business Has Destroyed Friendships (and Why it’s Okay)

LouisaBusiness & Tech, What The Matriarch Sees

It’s true that business and money is more often used for power and superiority. Good business in economic terms is defined as charging more money for a product or service than what it costs to produce. The difference is supposed to be made up in value. However value is often added by that elusive category ‘brand’ which rarely brings genuine empowerment, but often pulls emotional insecurities to trigger demand…making one person the winner and the other, the loser (and that’s not about empowerment).

3 Reasons Why You Should Question Christianity

LouisaWhat The Matriarch Sees

All sin, therefore, has its roots in what they call ‘idolatry’, which is the attempt to put something or someone in the place of the Creator (especially yourself). This is why vanity (self-idolatry) is a deadly sin in Christianity – woe betide you might cotton on to the fact that you are truly magnificent without God.

Not Giving a Shit is a Good Thing (Part 3)

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The most useful tool I’ve discovered on our life journey is compassionate honesty. It heals so many wounds. This month has given me the chance to compassionately and honestly re-examine the relationship between my adopted Mother and I, to see whether the wound has healed between us. But my mother continues to want to play the game of ‘who-is-right-and-wrong’, and … Read More

Letter to My Estranged Mother (Part 2)

Louisa001 The Hostile Environment, The Adoptee Journey

We have each claimed our respective subjective realities to be ‘the’ one and only truth over the years, but as it turns out there is no one and only truth. We can’t change our realities, only accept that my experience is true for me as your experience is true for you. I am not trying to make you wrong. But nor will I undermine my own reality to make you right.

Fighting Yeast Infections (& Other Interesting Conversations with your 3 year old)

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Yeast Infections

Yeast infections look quite pretty. From this angle. Yeast infections look quite pretty. From this angle. There are some discussions I didn’t expect to be having with my daughter. Not now (when she’s three). And actually not ever (before I became a feminist). “What’s that a picture of Mummy?” said my daughter looking at my Google search results. I resisted … Read More