This Site is About the Battle to Forge Identity & Find Freedom

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Will You Find Yourself In These Pages?

Many folk struggle to forge their identity. But women who are supposed to be mothers, whores, virgins, carers, unpaid (and uncomplaining) domestic servants, have a particular set of erasures to deal with. Our patriarchal society regards the male way of being as the norm and women are a flawed deviation (or objects to serve). My own struggle to know who I am is expressed on this site in both answered and unanswered questions. Maybe my experiences, analysis and research will help you find and forge yourself.

Who am I? Here's one answer:

I'm an inclusive feminist originally from the UK, with credits in the Guardian, The Local, Salon, Nerve, Jezebel, The Body is Not An Apology, Digital Journal, Inspired Economist, & Huffpo. I write about privilege, psychology, mental health, abuse, adoption, polyamory, power, parenting, trauma, sexuality, shame and cultural clashes.

I'm also a published (Thorntree Press) and self-published (under the brand Inner Worlds) author of "The Husband Swap" series. One won an award, another is under option for a film. Comments are on.

This is my place.
Play nicely please.

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