Reflections on Losing My Mind

Memory loss is one of the symptoms of living with high anxiety, which in itself is one of the symptoms of complex trauma..

Is Love just Relief from Anxiety?

It’s less about the dopamine high and more about the euphoria of finally feeling confident and capable. Feeling relaxed. Trusting that my children are safe.

The Story of the High Speed Train

This is what my anxiety feels like. There is a valve which regulates my stress levels and it needs to be maintained, and strengthened through self-care.

Am I abusive?

You asked… I read your response on anxiety with interest and foreboding. I am in an open relationship with my partner. I suffer hugely from anxiety, and although I try to take full responsibility for it, I fear that my initial – uncontrollable – reactions of fear and anxiety impact my partner’s decisions on how or even whether to move … Read More

What can I do if her anxiety prevents me from polyamory?

You asked… My wife and I married young and lived a monogamous lifestyle for 15 years. Over the last few years we’ve had several polyamorous experiences, initially due to her interest in it. But in this process we’ve discovered that she harbors crippling – and I mean crippling – jealousy and anxiety that for all practical purposes prevents me from … Read More

An Anxious Parent

I’ve created routines, bought activity books, depended a little too much sometimes on Peppa Pig. I’ve forced myself to go out, to face the demon.

Confessions of an Eyelash Puller

Who would have guessed that the high achieving little girl who was–to all the outside world–a perfect privileged child, was so busy hating herself?