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Silly Putty

The shell which included social etiquette, consideration and interest in the outer world is broken.  I feel a desperate need to be intensely focused on being sad and I resent any attempt to pull me out of my business of being so. Still, I will go through the motions, but I will not be happy. I do not want to be happy because that is just another attempt to invalidate what I'm feeling.

Dear White Women: Why We Need to Stop Crying When POC Call Us Out

Are you crying because you've discovered our present world is far shittier and more abusive than you thought? Are you crying because YOU are far shittier and more abusive than you thought? Ouch, that's gotta hurt. So cry away but not in the company of people of colour--they know the truth already. Don’t beg them for forgiveness, after all you have albeit unwittingly, been part of a system which abused them.

The Price of Polyamory & the In-Laws…

It seems incredible now, but I once thought the notion of intentional families was a simple one. Who wouldn’t want a family actively chosen from people whom you love and who love you with their whole heart instead of some of those conflicted fuck-ups we are saddled with by blood and/or marriage?

How Anti-Immigrant Sentiment Created the Manchester Attacks

Britain has never taken responsibility for the bloodshed and exploitation which built the empire. This is evidenced by Theresa May’s hardline on Brexit. We want to take without giving anything in return. We make no apologies for our xenophobic attitudes; our comedy ridicules ‘those bloody foreigners’, our narrow-minded and disrespectful behaviour often shames us in the countries we visit.

“Love, Retold” by Tikva Wolf

'Love, Retold' personifies non-violent and exploratory angles on our perceived powerlessness created by an ultimate truth; we cannot control others or their willingness to be in a relationship with us, if we truly seek to love.

Time, the Cost of Consent and Parallel Polyamory

Juggling time is a huge deal in a open relationship if the type of open relationship you have means investing in every relationship you develop. And it's not only in your intimate relationships, it's time spent with their parents, their brothers, sisters and depending on how close they are, cousins, uncles, aunts and the rest. It's the emotional labour of negotiating holidays, cultural and family traditions and personality dynamics.

White Fragility and the path to White Depression

Gone are the days when I positively affirmed every day in the shower, and shared uplifting memes. Now I see these past behaviours as tragic extent of mine and others' unawareness. I thought if I changed my mindset and concentrated on dismissing the negative and amplifying positive activism, that the world I wanted would resettle itself with my aligned actions.