This book highlights a smorgasbord of situations which make you question your current ideas about consent. Consent is not true consent where there is a power imbalance. You cannot make a free and retractable agreement about something, if that agreement is made in fear of losing your access to income, and resources–financial, emotional or otherwise.
‘Love, Retold’ personifies non-violent and exploratory angles on our perceived powerlessness created by an ultimate truth; we cannot control others or their willingness to be in a relationship with us, if we truly seek to love.
In a polyamorous household especially those with children, there must be a disproportionate number of families which include individuals who may understandably be less invested in creating a well functioning community than say, the biological parents. In those situations and for other communities comprising differing beliefs (including religion) Jess Mahler’s discussion framework–using concepts of hard boundaries and soft boundaries from the kink world–comes in handy.
Burning Women–as an archetype in our psyche, not a prescribed gender–are rising in the form of intersectional feminists, queer activists and angry people of colour. We are the rule breakers and we demand that our voices be heard. And as we get stronger, so the forces which suppressed us wage an ever more fierce war. But they cannot stop us.
Who can forget Little Britain‘s introduction to homosexuality? It was clever comedy on so many levels; dealing with stereotypical perception that Bacardi and coke was clearly the drink of choice for ‘all gays’–god forbid they should drink a masculine pint of stout–that they should only dress in latex and tank tops, that Matt Lucas’ character felt so isolated and misunderstood …
Today’s comic books are no longer the quiet solace and expression of an alternative community. The mainstreaming of high fantasy and Marvel’s recent success in bringing their comic universe to the cinema gives mainstream credibility to those seeking to make their minority voices heard through pictorial form.
Designer Relationships is a gentle, compassionate read which presents the subject in a most decorous and acceptable light, yet this also means it is not dramatic or compelling enough to encourage a dubious reader to finish it. This is not a book which will persuade those without an already open and curious mind.
Read Jackie Collins’ work. Note the strength of those who use their sexuality to move up the food chain or maintain their position, the objectification and abuse – of both sexes – that litters every chapter. But don’t dismiss it as trash.
In his long awaited book “The Game Changer: A memoir of disruptive love” Franklin Veaux delivers the back-story of how he’s become one of those biggest names. It’s not what the book is meant to show perhaps, nevertheless that is what came through for me simply because he honestly describes the process of how he’s become the man he is today.