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Hollywood, The Unlikely Therapist

Those films which make you cry tap into your deepest longings. To be loved, to be the rescued child, to be the winner. We've all of us gone through trauma.

What is Integrity? A Useful Model

I must accept and welcome wretchedness for my daughter, if she is to forge her own way to integrity.

To be Myself

If I enable a lie, it will take away a piece of me. Sometimes I think I am driven by sensationalism - a hangover of my desire for attention. That's a part of it (and that's the truth). But my experimentation with life, my experience, is my own way of determining what makes me happy outside of what society tells me makes me happy, and what makes me, me.

What’s Behind the Mask?

The mask I had carefully constructed and lovingly invested in over a period of 15 years turned out to be devoid of meaning in my mid thirties. Day after day I could toy with numbers, projecting consumer demand, running sensitivity analyses, presenting recommendations to the board for products which would line their money sodden pockets. It wasn't me anymore (if it ever had been).

The Devil and the Angel

That you desire to earn money from writing out your paltry experiences is exploitative, unskilled and ultimately worth nothing. But of course you know all of this even as you try and cover it with swathes of denial.

Have You Consented to Your Life?

You are not your mind. You have a mind and you can be the master of it. It is by truly understanding this that you may begin to make choices which will empower you. And that's when you begin to live a consensual life.

How You Manifest Your (Painful) Reality

I want to remind you of something you and almost everyone out there has forgotten. We are all born without judging ourselves perfect or imperfect. And then we start. Because 'bad emotions, bad parents and bad feedback have more impact than good ones.' Once upon a time someone you loved told you that you were not perfect. You internalized it and it became your belief. You acted accordingly.

Comment threads? They’re a fight to the death. Look, you know I’m right.

In the online world, protecting your reputation and your voice is survival; so much so, that if someone has made an fool of themselves in public and been proven wrong, they will – nine times out of ten – leave the forum and choose to eradicate their presence; in other words, they commit a sort of social suicide.

The Magnificence of Me

I cannot admit I am magnificent in public, or even in private, because doing so would turn me into a person I myself dislike. Someone big headed and cocky. Someone society would hate.

Love Yourself First

There’s a rumour going round that goes something like this. You won’t truly be loved by another until you love yourself. It’s been repeated in…