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How to Manage Threesomes & More-somes

Successful threesomes might have many components, but I would boldly state that the best way to ensure satisfaction is through good communication. Yet sitting down to discuss boundaries and consent with long term partner(s) with whom you hopefully have an enviable level of honest communication, is the easier part. It is not so easy to communicate with that spontaneous person you meet at the club, who agrees to participate in fun and games with you and your partner(s) for a one-off encounter.

How To Manage Deeply Incompatible Metamour Relationships

We all have our sensitivities, allergies and intolerances, some of them too deep to change in the short term - or even the medium term - to anyone's satisfaction. Whilst having such 'intolerances' is not an excuse to avoid self work and owning your shit, it is the reality. Some people are incompatible for you, at this stage of your life, maybe for always. Not because they are evil, nor because you are, but just like certain explosive chemicals, because of how you both react together.

How To Do Open-but-Monogamous Relationships

An open relationship is a choice which supplies by proxy, many of the challenges that humans require in order to develop emotional intelligence as well as a solid framework of ethics. But it is by no means the only choice which does this.

How To Stop Feeling Jealous

If you feel jealousy, it means that you also feel need and possession. Accept this. The difficulty is eradicating it. The only way you know you have eradicated it is if you stop feeling jealous... which presents a problem.

In your head because need is so strongly associated with love, to stop needing someone also means to stop loving someone. And you don't want that. You will fight hard to keep 'needing' someone because it is what you think love is. But I want you to know that even if you think that your love will be diminished if you take away the need, it won't be.

How to ‘Make’ An Open Relationship Work

If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.