Where Elitism Undermines the Ethos of Polyamory

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

I work on checking and using privilege for good; but let’s also be honest, It is also the product of self-preservation – something which has made man into a consummate survivor. And it’s the ‘how-to’ eradicate it generally outlined, basically involves throwing out the ‘training wheels’, something which challenges the very instinct which protects us.

Non-Monogamy Second Time Around… Suck it and See

Louisa Leontiades Open Relationships, Polyamory

For three years I’ve taken the easy option. I’ve had a vicariously open relationship without doing any of the work. But despite a few drunken kisses at parties, I haven’t gone out on a date since our last polyamorous relationship ended (not entirely coincidentally, three years ago).

How Non-Monogamy Divides the Non-Monogamous

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

Unfortunately despite all the good intentions, a minority’s struggle for acceptance will always create a ‘prisoners’ dilemma’ and this one is no different. In the non-monogamous community certain relationship configurations are more likely to be accepted if they align themselves to already existing precepts and/or paradigms.

The Hell of Monogamy – A Polyamorist Perspective

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

As we watched and took lessons from the hell that is the monogamous struggle for the perfect relationship, the one and only, I threw up. It wasn’t just the hangover… The reminder of the fear, anxiety, and utter shame I had felt for years from living and trying to live up to a monogamous paradigm was brought up quite literally in the form of the pizza I had eaten at 2am the night before.

Why Free Love Doesn’t Belong in the Bedroom

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

One of the most common reactions I’ve had when declaring my plural relationship preference is this. ‘Why can’t you keep it in the bedroom where it belongs?’ They think it’s private business. But it’s only private business if you can practise it freely, happily and without fear of utter condemnation or legal ramifications. Nose picking for example, is ‘private’; Polyamory is not because of the public consequences on those who practise it. It is, by definition, public business.