Ways I Fucked Up (So Far)

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During this process, I realised how susceptible we all are to being abusive. Abuse is so prevalent, and so normalized, and often so much a function of our gut reactions that it is easy to do, without being even aware of it. Worse still, it’s even easy to abuse when you are trying to help someone.

What Flavour of Non-Monogamy Is Right For You and Why?

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships

But even if you are wired towards the non-exclusive end of the spectrum (in any or all of the three areas) doesn’t mean that a non-monogamous relationship is suitable for you. How you cope with jealousy/insecurity, how you view commitment, community, honour, lying, as well as your cultural background and philosophical beliefs to list just a few, will all play a part on how you choose to design your relationship. And all those factors may change over the course of a lifetime.

How I Justify My Choice of Non-Monogamy

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

To my mind, biological disposition is therefore a weak premise for legitimizing sexual autonomy. Choice of sexual expression and the form it takes between consenting adults, makes a stronger foundation for establishing the civil rights we so badly need to protect us all against discrimination and unjustifiable action. I claim that polyamory as a relationship choice deserves to be protected. I claim that it is not detrimental to the moral fabric of our society or to our characters, but can on the contrary be highly beneficial.

Born to be Polyamorous? Not Me

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

For those who define themselves as polyfidelitous, swingers or even monogamous, they have chosen the relationship structure which suits them best because of the way their brains, minds, genetic needs and prior relationships have created their sense of selves and who they feel they are.

Polyamory is Pain

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory, Published Articles

Whilst much of my writing colours polyamory in a rose tinted light, I am not ignorant of the enormous pain that it might and does bring to many. Those who say my credibility is damaged and that I am stupid because I ignore the obvious pain signals which should prevent me practising polyamory, are only proving their own ignorance about the necessity and role of pain in our lives.