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Posts published in “Open Relationships”

A Spell of Consensual Objectification

To get the truth of what's going on inside a man's head is an amazing privilege. It's one that my boyfriend and I have cultivated for almost three years now. Because to get honesty, you have to accept whatever honesty brings. Including bias. Prejudice. Entitlement. All that good stuff we like to vilify, but which is rife because well, we're human.

The Clash of Relationship Anarchy with Romantic Hierarchy

I have no one more important than my chosen family. Right now I exist for them and as a reflection of them. I fear that the death of my family, would be the death of me, even if logically I know it to be untrue. In the past I have cleaved towards friends whom I considered as important as my family, only to have them demote me--when push came to shove--in favour of blood ties, even blood ties they despised.

The Unacknowledged Soulmate

If only she knew how much I love you. How much it hurts that you, that we, are not acknowledged. How you are regarded as some disposable piece of detritus. How fickle and worthless she believes my love for you is.

Becoming Chosen Family

She had no piece of paper, no recognised validity save what she and my partner felt for one another. She was a guest in my home--the home of a woman she hardly knew--but it was also her boyfriend's home and she knew him a lot better. My lack of trust was understandable, acceptable even, but that didn't make it easier for her to handle.

Unhealed Wounds & Wet Pants

They were once my family, I was not born to them but I chose them. How foolish I have been to think that I am healed, that I am whole. There is always more to work on. More wounds to re-open. So as I saw them, I remembered how much I love him, and how much I still miss him.

How to Manage Threesomes & More-somes

Successful threesomes might have many components, but I would boldly state that the best way to ensure satisfaction is through good communication. Yet sitting down to discuss boundaries and consent with long term partner(s) with whom you hopefully have an enviable level of honest communication, is the easier part. It is not so easy to communicate with that spontaneous person you meet at the club, who agrees to participate in fun and games with you and your partner(s) for a one-off encounter.