Where Elitism Undermines the Ethos of Polyamory

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

I work on checking and using privilege for good; but let’s also be honest, It is also the product of self-preservation – something which has made man into a consummate survivor. And it’s the ‘how-to’ eradicate it generally outlined, basically involves throwing out the ‘training wheels’, something which challenges the very instinct which protects us.

Are you using an open relationship as an excuse to escape your relationship?

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In most cases the couple expect that theirs will remain a primary relationship because the purpose of opening of their relationship is to protect it, not to destroy it. Here’s a newsflash. Whether you open your relationship or not, your relationship may fail.

In fact, a failing relationship has little to do with whether you include others, but whether your relationship is a healthy and stable one; remembering that what may be stable at one point, may become unstable at another because (here’s another newsflash) there is no permanency in this life.

Non-Monogamy Second Time Around… Suck it and See

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For three years I’ve taken the easy option. I’ve had a vicariously open relationship without doing any of the work. But despite a few drunken kisses at parties, I haven’t gone out on a date since our last polyamorous relationship ended (not entirely coincidentally, three years ago).

How Non-Monogamy Divides the Non-Monogamous

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

Unfortunately despite all the good intentions, a minority’s struggle for acceptance will always create a ‘prisoners’ dilemma’ and this one is no different. In the non-monogamous community certain relationship configurations are more likely to be accepted if they align themselves to already existing precepts and/or paradigms.

The Hell of Monogamy – A Polyamorist Perspective

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

As we watched and took lessons from the hell that is the monogamous struggle for the perfect relationship, the one and only, I threw up. It wasn’t just the hangover… The reminder of the fear, anxiety, and utter shame I had felt for years from living and trying to live up to a monogamous paradigm was brought up quite literally in the form of the pizza I had eaten at 2am the night before.

What’s So Great About Open Relationships Anyway?

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And let’s say your fundamental needs are already met by your current relationship interactions – including monogamous arrangements – then there is no need to be open in practice as long as you have been truly open in your evaluation. An open relationship means the permission to know and accept oneself …and be accepted by your partners.

Why Free Love Doesn’t Belong in the Bedroom

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Open Relationships, Polyamory

One of the most common reactions I’ve had when declaring my plural relationship preference is this. ‘Why can’t you keep it in the bedroom where it belongs?’ They think it’s private business. But it’s only private business if you can practise it freely, happily and without fear of utter condemnation or legal ramifications. Nose picking for example, is ‘private’; Polyamory is not because of the public consequences on those who practise it. It is, by definition, public business.

Why I Don’t Regret Being Sober in Dublin

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Before I became a stay-at-home entrepreneur, I was a financial analyst. And before then I was a prodigious piss artist. That’s not the reason I chose to do my MBA in Ireland at the age of 27, home to the greatest drinkers on earth, but when I did finally choose Dublin’s fair city and a top ranking university for my …

Is Your Virtual Life Killing You?

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If there is one universal truth, it is that we are hardwired to form relationships, both transient and long lasting, inside of marriage and out. And although one of the greatest philosophers said ‘I think, therefore I am’, in my mind it is much more likely to be ‘I love, therefore I am’. Never have I felt as profoundly touched …