Jealousy in an Open Relationship

Deep, deep down, I still fear abandonment which will reinforce the lie that rings like truth in my ears that I am inherently, and personally, shameful and unlovable.

How Non-Monogamy Divides the Non-Monogamous

Unfortunately despite all the good intentions, a minority’s struggle for acceptance will always create a ‘prisoners’ dilemma’ and this one is no different. In the non-monogamous community certain relationship configurations are more likely to be accepted if they align themselves to already existing precepts and/or paradigms.

The Hell of Monogamy – A Polyamorist Perspective

As we watched and took lessons from the hell that is the monogamous struggle for the perfect relationship, the one and only, I threw up. It wasn’t just the hangover… The reminder of the fear, anxiety, and utter shame I had felt for years from living and trying to live up to a monogamous paradigm was brought up quite literally in the form of the pizza I had eaten at 2am the night before.

What’s So Great About Open Relationships Anyway?

And let’s say your fundamental needs are already met by your current relationship interactions – including monogamous arrangements – then there is no need to be open in practice as long as you have been truly open in your evaluation. An open relationship means the permission to know and accept oneself …and be accepted by your partners.

Conversations with Franklin Veaux: An Uncommon Dialogue

In the online poly world there are a few figures that come to the fore. Most of those – unsurprisingly – have websites. Others have written books (or are about to!). I caught up with Franklin Veaux of More Than Two fame to talk about jealousy, game-changing relationships…and more. Many people believe that polyamory is a choice – a conscious … Read More

Why Free Love Doesn’t Belong in the Bedroom

One of the most common reactions I’ve had when declaring my plural relationship preference is this. ‘Why can’t you keep it in the bedroom where it belongs?’ They think it’s private business. But it’s only private business if you can practise it freely, happily and without fear of utter condemnation or legal ramifications. Nose picking for example, is ‘private’; Polyamory is not because of the public consequences on those who practise it. It is, by definition, public business.