These relationships do not live in the past, because for the women at least, there is no past. There is only today. And in my grown life I have sought to emulate that characteristic of those relationships. Why?
Dear Louloria, I am experiencing a pattern in my relationships that I would like some insight into please. When my relationships come to an end, my exes choose a very similar woman to me as their next partner. They are similar to me in looks, tastes and personality. They also do it just a few weeks after our breakup. It’s painful to be … Read More
And so when I recommended to a client last week that they might try ‘non-violent communication’ as a better way to communicate with their partner, I was pooh-poohed. They told me that they weren’t ‘down with hippy heaven.’ It was unlikely that I could have persuaded him to buy a book on the subject (hence this cheat sheet).
Emotional maturity then is inextricably bound up with self-esteem. Those who have low self-esteem cannot operate at a high level of emotional maturity (even if they pretend otherwise).
Because beyond this conditioning is a deeper truth. In all long term relationships sooner or later, you will stop idealizing your partner and will see his faults.
Because the part of life that contradicts the lie, goes into that lovely place called denial and resides in your subconscious. It means you don’t have to be responsible for your life. And your subconscious mind will perpetuate the lie. It will go to greater and greater lengths to support the position you have created for yourself and cover up the truth. Lies fragment your subconscious and shatter your integrity.