For me one of the real differences between narcissism and privilege is not therefore in the actions of the individual, but in the extent of their internal distortion of reality.
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There could be many potential reasons not least that to become a overseas voter is a bureaucratic nightmare, especially for those like me who left before voting age. When I eventually found the energy to jump through all the hoops, I was turned away. The electoral commission had only been formed in 2001 and when I discovered the website several years later, my rights had already expired.
For people of colour, white ethics do not promote their survival--it only promotes white people's survival and usually at the expense of theirs. People of colour have not been allowed voice, still today have less voice and any choice of an ethical framework--even by me, a white person--is ill-informed if it does not take this into account because our reality is weighted privilege.
There's only one way to break a someone who is living in an extreme fantasy world, but it means risking the mind of the person themselves. It is tantamount to throwing the baby away with the bathwater. You must accept that this throws out the baby as well (a metaphor which suits Donald particularly well), because they do not--cannot--function properly outside of their bathwater. They have not learned how.
Like the flare up of an allergy, and since the shock of the midsummer brexit, I am now in hypervigilance. I see potential harm long before it turns into active threat. And when the red rage comes, I fight or flee to remove that potential from my environment, from my children's environment. With the Trump presidency, I cannot. It is everywhere. I see it everywhere. Threat is everywhere.
You've heard it in so many wise texts; power is a gift, use it wisely. And what is wisdom? Wisdom is understanding that you know very little and that that is a natural consequence in being human. You are human. And you know very little.
In-groups are formed by what we consider to be 'relevant' familiarity. Children, and even adults, process most of our information visually which means that varying skin tones might be not only the first but also the only indicators for who is 'in' and who is 'out'.
One reason why this immigration was considered successful had nothing to do with Sweden's ability to integrate immigrants; only that the type of immigrants arriving were more easily 'integrate-able' as is still the case today for me. At first sight therefore, when immigrants are able to fit into Swedish culture at a level which allows them to peaceably live and work within the system, we do not see backlashes against immigration.
If you are not at the centre then don't shit on the person whose been hurt - your job is to support them. If you yourself need support in order to do that, bitch to people who are less affected by it; comfort in, dump out... On a macro scale don't give more burdens to those who have been oppressed. Don't expect compassion from those who have been dumped on. It is not their job to show it.
I'm not laughing anymore. I'm crying because what this farce of an election has done, is to uncover evil in my own home, in my own friends and yes, also in myself. It has torn the veil off those relationships I believed were rock solid. Not because my world or social circle are anything like as extreme as Trump, but because extreme or not, his vile behaviours--like the objectification of women--are so commonplace.
Welcome to the Swedish hen do--not a penis in sight--but where instead you can dress up as a pantomime cow to play five-a-side football.