How To Manage Deeply Incompatible Metamour Relationships

Louisa Leontiades Epic Relationships, How Tos..., Polyamory, Unfenced Relationships

We all have our sensitivities, allergies and intolerances, some of them too deep to change in the short term – or even the medium term – to anyone’s satisfaction. Whilst having such ‘intolerances’ is not an excuse to avoid self work and owning your shit, it is the reality. Some people are incompatible for you, at this stage of your life, maybe for always. Not because they are evil, nor because you are, but just like certain explosive chemicals, because of how you both react together.

The Wrong Marriage Proposal

Louisa Leontiades Diaries, Epic Relationships, Polyamory, Unfenced Relationships

He suggested we convene on a boat tethered on the Seine for a post-lunch glass of wine. Which turned into a bottle. There, he thought he could propose. But the light made our eyes squint and our heads ached from midday drinking. In the blue brightness of day, the open air boats weren’t half as romantic; the tables had cigarette burns on them and the linoleum on the floor was ripped and tatty. Then it started to rain.

My Transitioned Love… Promising Solutions for Changing Relationships

Louisa Leontiades Diaries, Epic Relationships, Polyamory, Unfenced Relationships

She’s an exceptional woman who sees me as an asset. They are happy together. That makes me happy. And our children happy. One big, happy relationship-fluid family. My daughter now has several female role models in her life. We’ve seen a blossoming in her over the past months which warms all our hearts. It’s something kind of wonderful.

Riding The Tide of Life

Louisa Leontiades Diaries, Epic Relationships, Polyamory, Unfenced Relationships

Because the price I’ve paid for being in this relationship has been the loss of my identity. Any identity I assume, is all too easily discarded. My core is nameless, faceless. Unbound by morals, and untethered to values. And after two years of untying knots to ‘who I am’, what’s left is an unmanned boat free but without direction, sailing on the tide of life.

How I Justify My Choice of Non-Monogamy

Louisa Leontiades Activist Polyamory, Epic Relationships, Polyamory, Unfenced Relationships

To my mind, biological disposition is therefore a weak premise for legitimizing sexual autonomy. Choice of sexual expression and the form it takes between consenting adults, makes a stronger foundation for establishing the civil rights we so badly need to protect us all against discrimination and unjustifiable action. I claim that polyamory as a relationship choice deserves to be protected. I claim that it is not detrimental to the moral fabric of our society or to our characters, but can on the contrary be highly beneficial.

Interview with Sophia Gubb (

Louisa Leontiades Activist Interviews, Epic Relationships, Polyamory, Unfenced Relationships

I’ve been following Sophia Gubb’s personal development & activism blog for the last few years reading how her life has transformed as she’s gone from living in a male identity to answering to Sophia… although her blog doesn’t just focus on that by any means! Louisa: Hi Sophia, let’s start with trans 101. When I went to school we all …

The Power of Polyamory Through Wonder Woman

Louisa Leontiades Diaries, Epic Relationships, Polyamory, Unfenced Relationships

How could there be any benefit in having another loving adult added to the parenting mix? Or in the simple logistics that three parental figures make less work? I’m not about to refute the potential impact of my children’s loss and heartache, if my boyfriend-who-is-not-the-father (WINTF) would ever leave, but people do break up, move away and die all the time and you don’t have to be in a relationship for that to happen.