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Posts published in “Polyamory”

Schrodinger’s Child

I stayed up all night looking after her and at 6am Freddie awoke wanting to play. Morten and I were exhausted. But when I looked at them still I felt, it was all worth it. And smelling of sick, I still burned for them.

How To Manage Deeply Incompatible Metamour Relationships

We all have our sensitivities, allergies and intolerances, some of them too deep to change in the short term - or even the medium term - to anyone's satisfaction. Whilst having such 'intolerances' is not an excuse to avoid self work and owning your shit, it is the reality. Some people are incompatible for you, at this stage of your life, maybe for always. Not because they are evil, nor because you are, but just like certain explosive chemicals, because of how you both react together.

The Wrong Marriage Proposal

He suggested we convene on a boat tethered on the Seine for a post-lunch glass of wine. Which turned into a bottle. There, he thought he could propose. But the light made our eyes squint and our heads ached from midday drinking. In the blue brightness of day, the open air boats weren't half as romantic; the tables had cigarette burns on them and the linoleum on the floor was ripped and tatty. Then it started to rain.

My Transitioned Love… Promising Solutions for Changing Relationships

She's an exceptional woman who sees me as an asset. They are happy together. That makes me happy. And our children happy. One big, happy relationship-fluid family. My daughter now has several female role models in her life. We've seen a blossoming in her over the past months which warms all our hearts. It's something kind of wonderful.

Riding The Tide of Life

Because the price I've paid for being in this relationship has been the loss of my identity. Any identity I assume, is all too easily discarded. My core is nameless, faceless. Unbound by morals, and untethered to values. And after two years of untying knots to 'who I am', what's left is an unmanned boat free but without direction, sailing on the tide of life.

Polyamory doesn’t have to be Queer

In truth gender and sexuality might have little to do with whether you conduct loving relationships in parallel. Let's be honest, there's very little about me that's queer and if I'm to include that in my identity it feels like yet another appropriation of the queer struggle.

Is Polyamory Simply A Transition from Monogamy to Monogamy?

He felt that polyamory wasn't stable, but could be a 'fluid way to get change as compared to ending one relationship entirely before searching for a new one.' His inference was from monogamy to polyamory and back to monogamy, and that's where we disagree. Fluidity is not about vacillating between two binary states.

How I Justify My Choice of Non-Monogamy

To my mind, biological disposition is therefore a weak premise for legitimizing sexual autonomy. Choice of sexual expression and the form it takes between consenting adults, makes a stronger foundation for establishing the civil rights we so badly need to protect us all against discrimination and unjustifiable action. I claim that polyamory as a relationship choice deserves to be protected. I claim that it is not detrimental to the moral fabric of our society or to our characters, but can on the contrary be highly beneficial.