Anne is enduringly popular not only because these books recount the beautifully scripted highs and lows of a life well lived, they also present a definitive guide to life contained in the voice of just one fictional character (and very occasionally her friends).
The challenge lies then, not with this book (which is quite frankly the best intro to poly problems I’ve found), but with human nature and the way we create our knowledge; Clue…it’s not just from other people’s experiences.
We’re fighting the same fight Jenny and I. The battle to embrace our choices and our sexuality for all that they are and all that they can be. For women to have no shame about their pussies… and bodies.
When you make pain a part of your identity, it’s harder to move on from it without suspicion and bitterness. But good relationships require loving as though you had never been hurt before. A guarded heart is a closed heart. ~ More Than Two
Is my happiness worth more than my constructed image, my status and my social position? Because if you want the damn biscuit, you’ll have more chance of getting it, if you just ask.
I don’t know Eve and one of her significant partners, Peter. But I do know how courageous it is to openly discuss your sex life in the public eye, knowing how harshly many might judge.
Personal belief systems count. But so do circumstances and choices. Some of us have really hard circumstances and really hard choices to make.
In fact the whole book is a dichotomous mixture of wisdom and self deprecating wit with serious clinical terms and sit-com humour. In this way it is far more palatable than other psychology text books.
A truly comprehensive coverage of various relationship issues are examined in a therapeutic setting – death of sex in a relationship, cheating and broken trust, development of a workable triad, first time swinging and my personal favourite, the polyamorous-monogamous configuration.
In fact, the girl behind the mask is exceedingly enjoyable on so many levels for me. Not least the awakening my sexual ardour after so much downtime as a new Mum.
The goal of the book – as outlined by the author at the beginning – is to provide a new map for relationships. But no book can persuade readers through only emotionless hard analysis, psychological half truths and noticeably ‘masculine oriented’ sweeping assumptions about women and their motivations.
But then I read this book. And I can safely say it surpasses every expectation you’ve ever had of a guidebook to life. Whereas others like Illusions by Richard Bach speak in parables and enigma (beautiful though it is), this book is more practical. It’s also brutally honest; shockingly so.
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