To be Myself

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Psychology-Self

If I enable a lie, it will take away a piece of me. Sometimes I think I am driven by sensationalism – a hangover of my desire for attention. That’s a part of it (and that’s the truth). But my experimentation with life, my experience, is my own way of determining what makes me happy outside of what society tells me makes me happy, and what makes me, me.

What’s Behind the Mask?

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Psychology-Self

The mask I had carefully constructed and lovingly invested in over a period of 15 years turned out to be devoid of meaning in my mid thirties. Day after day I could toy with numbers, projecting consumer demand, running sensitivity analyses, presenting recommendations to the board for products which would line their money sodden pockets. It wasn’t me anymore (if it ever had been).

“Help me. I’m Having an Affair.”

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Psychology-Relationships

Because the part of life that contradicts the lie, goes into that lovely place called denial and resides in your subconscious. It means you don’t have to be responsible for your life. And your subconscious mind will perpetuate the lie. It will go to greater and greater lengths to support the position you have created for yourself and cover up the truth. Lies fragment your subconscious and shatter your integrity.

Becoming Aware of the Codependency Matrix

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Psychology-Relationships

These structures we build are part of our social conditioning and therefore not ‘innate’, however they are also inescapable as part of our journey from purely unconscious babies who are by definition helpless, through partially conscious and struggling adults and perhaps, eventually, escaping the mind ‘matrix’…or as we call it, codependency.

How You Manifest Your (Painful) Reality

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Self-Esteem

I want to remind you of something you and almost everyone out there has forgotten. We are all born without judging ourselves perfect or imperfect. And then we start. Because ‘bad emotions, bad parents and bad feedback have more impact than good ones.’ Once upon a time someone you loved told you that you were not perfect. You internalized it and it became your belief. You acted accordingly.

A Robust Belief System

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Personal Development, Psychology

In my life I have built a structure for my belief system which helps me understand the madness and chaos of this world. It’s not unique, but it is tailored to me as all of our must be. It is only one of my belief structures, but I would say the default one and hinges on if…then… statements (and not only because I’m a fan of excel).

Love Yourself First

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Self-Esteem

There’s a rumour going round that goes something like this. You won’t truly be loved by another until you love yourself. It’s been repeated in various guises by many over the years and notably several Hollywood actresses. They seem – unsurprisingly – to be the most in need for a little self love. Love yourself first and everything else falls …