Sacrificing integrity for the greater good. But what greater good is there than integrity?

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Personal Development, Psychology

But when people are dear to me, I feel they deserve more than ghosting. They deserve at least an attempt to explain why our relationship will be changing. The choice is not binary of course, we could simply be less in each other’s lives. I could reduce contact, fobbing them off with excuses until I achieved my desired effect. But that reduces their power of consent. If they knew how I truly felt about their values and/or consequent actions, then they may choose to cut contact altogether.

Are We Allowed to Objectify Kim Kardashian’s Butt?

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Psychology-Self

There are some instances where objectification is entirely appropriate and needed. For a short while–for example–a baby cannot walk, and cannot feed itself. They have no agency, no power to decide on where they go or what they do. As parents or caregivers we take on this agency. We are literally a baby’s arms and legs… we dress them, we feed them, we pick them up and put them down.

The Surprising Upsides of an Atrocious Memory

Louisa Leontiades Beastly & Beautiful, Psychology, Psychology-Self

As a child my memory was rewritten time and again–first by my mother who tried to erase who I was to serve her own narcissistic needs, and then as an adult by an abusive ex (ditto). At twelve years old, I experienced a car accident which must have had more of an impact than the months I don’t recall and I drank my way through my twenties, actively trying to forget many things, which I’m pretty sure had an even larger impact.