A Proper Family Christmas

My children do not count as ‘proper’ grandchildren because I didn’t grow up with our mother. For him there are two criteria. Blood AND environment.

Sophia Gubb

I think a lot of people see gender as something malleable. That I put on a dress and act like a woman, so one day I could choose to act like a man again.

They Called Me ‘Mr Glass’…

In the film Unbreakable Samuel L. Jackson plays Mr. Glass. A man whose bones shatter like glass. A man who was constantly mocked as a child. He is sick, angry and broken.

The Beauty Pageant

It might be traditional, but it’s certainly not about empowering women. And neither, by any stretch of the imagination is the Miss World competition which puts impossible ideals of beauty on a pedestal notwithstanding the charitable acts of its contestants.

The Truth About Lying (to Kids)

When I’ve said this in the past, there has always been a follow up question. ‘So you, who believe in honesty… do you lie to your children? Do you expose them to the harsh realities of life?’

Celebrating the Magic of a Coca Cola Santa Claus

I would like to tell them about the wonderful man who gave to the poor. I would like to show them the legend of the Yule Lads from Iceland and get excited at how they have 13 Santas, not just one. I would like to explain how Coca Cola pulled off the biggest marketing marvel of all time and popularized him in red as opposed to blue.

Sometimes An Epidural is Best for Baby

My way, would be natural I’d decided (with not a little smirk of superiority). A water birth, maybe with a kick of gas and air to get me laughing like Uncle Benny in Lethal Weapon.

What Is A ‘Real’ Mother?

The question of what a ‘real’ mother means, is increasingly relevant. What does it mean to be a mother? Who is the ‘real’ mother?

Franklin Veaux

Today Franklin Veaux is a leader and advocate in the polyamorous community; but over ten years ago Franklin Veaux was not a man whose word was respected.

Loving Off The Relationship Escalator

At what point do you define ‘being in a relationship’? Is it more than one date? Is it when you decide to be exclusive? Is it when you label each other boyfriend/girlfriend?

Hollywood, The Unlikely Therapist

Those films which make you cry tap into your deepest longings. To be loved, to be the rescued child, to be the winner. We’ve all of us gone through trauma.

Born to be Polyamorous? Not Me

How we individually express our genes is not predetermined. The structure of our brains is inextricably linked to, the influences in our environment.

Can We Trust Self-Help?

We are all vulnerable with our own individual life circumstances. And with the increased accessibility of information we are also more likely to seek out the quick fix solution because quite simply it is in our nature.

7 Things I Thought I Would Never Do As a Parent

No matter how much organic produce you buy or exciting names you invent for vegetables, there are some things your child will not eat… although this long list is cut in half if you drown them in ketchup.

Why Good Will Hunting Is A Classic

Will’s youth has been destroyed. He lives in violence and poverty. He’s the impossibility of a janitor being a world class genius. Good Will Hunting is the irony of beauty amid destruction. Love in pain. Joy in misery.

Nerve | Polyamory is Pain

Emotional pain is horrendous. Even more so, because it's often invisible to others.

The pain of polyamory showed me that I was in a codependent relationship. Something that had been hidden from me within my monogamous paradigm.

Why are all the Men I date Assholes?

I have a son and a daughter (with a man who is as far removed from being an asshole as it is possible to be). If either of them were ever caught up in a situation where they were the perpetrator or the victim of such a situation, I don’t know how I would contain my vitriol …or my guilt. Because in both positions, my children would be operating out of a place of low self-esteem. One who needed to feed their ego by taking power to control and manipulate. One who felt they were worth very little and that this was the only relationship they deserved.

Grieving the Grandmother I Never Knew

My grandmother was the essence of respectability, sometimes sharp tongued and very much cultured. And to insiders – who knows? For I am not one of them.

7 Lessons from Anne of Green Gables ~ A Definitive Guide to Life

Anne is enduringly popular not only because these books recount the beautifully scripted highs and lows of a life well lived, they also present a definitive guide to life contained in the voice of just one fictional character (and very occasionally her friends).