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How to start using your privilege
…I have been unwittingly treading on intersectional toes for most of my life and been rewarded by society for it. I have therefore been trained that the way to gain appreciation, love and value is precisely by being complicit in harming so many. Read more...
Torn between two worlds and ableist language shaming
Experience inadequacy and confusion when you go out, try to grapple with vastly different public transport systems, inadvertently miss bill payments because the sheer volume of foreign administrative mail takes literally days to wade through. Read more...
The Myth of One People
But the Greens support the republicanism and actually you quite like the royal family. Where do you belong? Can you take mishmashes of policy and create your own belief system and by inference your own identity? Read more...
Relationship Fluidity Instead of Relationship Anarchy
To be relationship fluid embraces possibility and potential. It supports all states with the humble admission that we are human and choose the ways we think will help us best survive. Read more...
Help! How Can I Help My Abusive Partner?
It is frightening for him because he only has the survival mechanisms he knows, and suddenly they are not serving him anymore. So he abuses you in an attempt to try to influence you to change your behaviour. Read more...
How To Manage Deeply Incompatible Metamour Relationships
Deep incompatibilities exist between people when ingrained strategies they each follow to meet their fundamental needs conflict with one another so badly, that they polarize and risk explosion. Read more...
Murder Is Easy
This disregard for life. Our ability to objectify, dehumanize. Make people into animals. And then separate ourselves from them as if we are somehow superior. We do it all the time. Read more...
5 Hard Truths About Adoption, Adoptive Parents don’t want to Hear
…the relegation of my first real mother to the function of incubator by using the terms ‘birth or biological mother’ objectifies her, and diminishes her role and her importance in my heritage. She is also my ‘real’ mother Read more...
How Maternal Narcissism Grinds Self-Confidence into Dust
Her narcissism has profoundly affected my self worth and my self esteem to such an extent that even now, who I am, is a product of what she forced upon me, and how eventually I rebelled against it. Read more...
When Hurt Becomes Abuse and The Dimensions of 'Hurt'
…it is often not easy to figure out where the power lies in relationships. And more confusing still it doesn’t have to be power in the absolute, it can be simply about the perception of power. Read more...
Confronting Bi-Erasure In The Mirror
Confronting and eradicating these attitudes from the world are more important than staying shielded in my false heterosexuality. I can’t contribute to bi-erasure. Read more...
My Vagina Smells Like Shame
Because the large majority of smells in themselves are neutrally perceived including natural bodily odour. It is our reaction to them which is a conditioned response. Read more...
F.R.I.E.N.D.S… The One With The Perfect Plot Structures
The writers of Friends were master plotters, not only over entire seasons, but in many individual episodes. They often intertwined several plots in one, playing them off against one another. So if you thought that Friends was just a bit of fun… think again. Read more...
Reflections on Losing my Mind
…for me writing is the way I remember my life and my purpose. It’s a vital part of my self-care and my self-identity. I need to write myself down because otherwise I would forget who I am. Read more...
My Sex Life is Public, No I Won’t Have Sex With You
I write ‘inappropriately’. About things which ‘should’ be private. Once I was even told that simply by speaking about sex and multiple partner relationships, I was ‘asking for it.’ Read more...