#Metoo Motivations

Last November, an ex-partner of Franklin Veaux contacted me to share some pretty dire experiences of psychological abuse. I didn’t want to believe her.  What I wanted to believe was that the harm Franklin caused was not intentional or conscious. That it was a one-off. That Franklin was a nice guy who had made a few wrong steps. I hoped …

How I learned that Mental Illness was not a Personal Failure

We talk a lot about sexual objectification but rarely look at the bigger picture. An object exists to serve a purpose and in many instances we are objectified in order to serve society. If I could not be the obedient girl, if I could not pay my own way, if I was not a good mother… if I wasn’t another brick in the wall, then I was redundant, useless to the world.

Brown Paper Packages Tied Up With String

With time restrictions therefore, my options are few; but I’m determined to make it work. After all between an apocalyptic future exploding in glorious glitter, and any other future where presents look like World War Two rations, I’ll go for the latter.

My Daughter’s Consent And The Boy Next Door

consent between children

This boy is kind. But being kind doesn’t disguise the fact that he has no knowledge of boundaries. He knocks at all hours of the day. If the back door is on the latch, he’ll come in uninvited and sit on Maya’s bed to await her return until I show him the door. He once tried to force his way in her room to wake her up and play.

Boy, You’ll Be A Woman… Soon

No one does make up for men like Tim Curry

For a woman like me–a die-hard fan of The Rocky Horror Show who lustfully watched Sweet Transvestite on loop –the news that Chanel launched it’s first make-up for men on September 1 2018 in South Korea, was wildly exciting.

Why We Should Say ‘Female Genital Cutting’ and Not ‘Mutilation’

Jay Kay Fredrick

Mutilation is not a word commonly associated with love. But given that the choice in many African communities is to be cut or choose a future where your child is ostracised, unlovable and ‘unmarriable’—the question must be about how love manifests for children, when it comes to ensuring their survival.

The Tale of Two Dads

We didn’t try. We just didn’t not try and according to my calculations, we never had sex at the right time. So I thought that given the minuscule probability if it happened it would be a miracle. God is a bit of a shit stirrer though. A third child, with a different father.

The Face of a Dying Breed, The European Brit

Maybe you like me, are growing weary of the bigoted, beating heart of Brexit-fucking-Britain, but unforeseen consequences and unsolved issues still resound almost two years after the referendum. One of the unexamined shames, is the inevitable decline of the Treaty of Rome generation, those who grew up identifying as European hybrids thanks to mixed heritages; bi-tri-or multilingual folk, those who live like …

Why Communists turn into Nationalists

As causes grow in popularity, the original victims are often left behind whilst those already in power claim more space and more status by piggybacking on these issues without having suffered first-hand experience in order to promote their own agenda.

Life without Facebook? Is there any chance for escape?

Depressingly, a portion of those ‘success stories’ who did not return to Facebook had simply replaced Facebook with other social media. Far from extracting themselves from an algorithmic life, they had only jumped out of the proverbial frying pan into the fire.

What Aziz Ansari Did Does Not Make Him A Criminal, Unfortunately

Power is the capacity to influence others which–notwithstanding systemic privilege–fluctuates, sometimes on a daily basis according to self esteem, personality, age, maturity and in every unique relationship dynamic. How can power be measured or compared, when there is no absolute, and perception of power is also a form of power?